You Have More to Give - Dispelling Self-Doubt

Show Notes:
You have more to give than you think. We all do.

I was recently sitting at my desk, thinking about how amazing it is that people are connecting with the way I am sharing about God & deepening my relationship with Him by really getting into studying the Bible. And I was in kind of a prayer/chatting to myself and to God, when I said something like, “I’m surprised that people are relating to me so well, even though I’m still new here, but You’re using me where I’m at right now [in life] and others may be at that same place and appreciate the way I go about it because of that.” Basically, I was coming to the conclusion that God IS using me to do His work right where I’m at in life. And immediately after having that thought, I went to look up scriptures that aligned with that thinking (I’m doing that a lot, lately, lol).

Here is the scripture that hit me most when thinking about being beneficial despite our weakness:

2 Corinthians 12:9, “Each time he said, My grace is all you need. My power works best in weakness. So now I am glad to boast about my weaknesses, so that the power of Christ can work through me.”

There were many people in the Bible that struggled with feeling like they were enough to do what God was asking them to do. Moses led the Israelites out of Egypt, Paul (our new role model for confidence) felt inadequate to preach the gospel before realizing God’s power was made perfect in his weakness, and Gideon needed signs from God to confirm he was actually being called to lead the battle against the Midianites.

Today I want to chat with you about how we have way more to give than we think we do. We are capable of so much, regardless of education, time, experience, or even how we feel about ourselves. We can do amazing things if we only believed in ourselves & no longer allowed the doubt to take over our minds. And to that note, today I am going to share with you 5 tips you can use to push through feelings of inadequacy & self-doubt.

1. Find the Source of Your Feelings
   1. What are your feelings based on? 
   2. Once you know where your feelings are based, you can combat those feelings with positive ones and ones that better reflect the truth.
2. Take Action & Risks
   1. Set a few small goals 
   2. Do an activity outside of your comfort zone 
   3. Bring attention to your idea/opinion 
3. Learn New Skills
   1. Take a class to better a skill or learn a new one
   2. Try something you never thought you would or that has nothing to do with anything you do now.
4. Lean On God
   1. Pray & seek God’s wisdom, guidance & strength to make it through moments of feeling less than & high self-doubt.
   2. Remember that God can use us despite our weaknesses or inexperience. 
5. Have a Balanced View of Your Strengths & Weaknesses
   1. We focus way too much on our weaknesses. 
   2. There needs to be a balance between reviewing what needs to be strengthened and what is already really strong.
   3. No one is good at everything.

Transcript

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This is the Real Positive Girl podcast and I am your host Sabrina. And you know, we're here trotting about your emotions, your mental health struggles, how to take those first few steps towards being more vulnerable, being more honest, and developing more self-awareness. And we do that two times a week here. So if you are new, welcome to the party where we talk all about our mindset and also lately have been throwing in some scripture references and ways that we can really like fully renew ourselves through God as well. And if you're not new, uh, welcome back. Welcome back to the Party. So, you know, today we're gonna talk about something very exciting. I think I said that every single week and I truly <laugh> or every single episode since we do two a week, I truly mean it. Uh, but today we're gonna talk about, you have more to give dispelling self-doubt, which I think a lot of us do suffer with self-doubt. So I think it'll be a very like helpful episode for like so many people. 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So I was born in 1985 just so you know. So if you wanna think back to that time of growing up and becoming someone that school was like where you were gonna go, right? You were just like, it was assumed that you were gonna go to college and if you didn't go to college it was like, well what are you doing with your life? And there was definitely people that I knew that didn't go to college or didn't even go to like trade school, you know, if they chose to just do like a trade and learn that kind of skill. And it was always so weird for them it was like, oh, why aren't you going to school? As if like it was this big taboo thing for them to choose to not go to school. So yeah, I grew up where I was required to have a degree to do anything and for anyone to really take you seriously. I'm glad that we've kind of strayed away from that because I think it gives more opportunity to people to do things that, you know, even things that I'm trying to do now that are not necessarily taught in college. You know, to be able to provide knowledge and wisdom and information on the internet, uh, to be that type of influencer, which really just wrapped, is wrapped up into marketing. Like I'm not necessarily doing that part, but you know, like all of these different like online things where you can be like fully into comedy online, I just think it's absolutely amazing that we are finally releasing all of those restrictions that we had on kids that are like 17, 18, graduating from high school and then forcing them to already know what they wanna do with their lives. Like they haven't really lived life yet. So anyway, that's like a whole <laugh>, that's a whole like thing that I don't wanna go off on today cuz we could have that conversation. It just, just not gonna be today. Um, but yeah, so you needed that and, and at the time I was fine with that to be honest because that's just what, like what I knew what I was expected and I wanted to go to college, you know, I wanted to go to college because I really just needed like a kinda like a clean break. I needed to like, you know, reset my life from all the trauma, drama, drama, whatever that I was going through. And I like learning. I, I genuinely love it. I think that's another reason why I recently fell into doing a lot of bible study because I just love learning. It's really enjoyable and fulfilling for me and it's like it comes easy to me to like wanna like study things and understand them and on to other people. So I wanted to go to the col college and especially since I ended up going to a university that had switched from like being only like a bible college to a four year like accredited university. So you could like go there and they actually had like a nursing school and you can get your typical like business degrees, marketing, like psychology, all of those things. And so I had the benefit of being able to major in psychology and minor in being a gift pastor. So cuz they still offered all the Bible classes and still offered like majoring in those things if you wanted to like be a worship leader or a pastor, like whatever it was that you wanted to do. Um, but again, we've progressed so far in life but growing up at a time like that with the added bonus of me being like that five star people pleaser, I didn't think much of myself. Like really I didn't, I was too wrapped up into making sure everyone else in my life felt good about themselves cuz that's, you know, the job of a people pleaser and you know, I had hope I could become something more right? Uh, something amazing, which is part of the reason that I went to school, you know, um, I had hope I could, you know, go and learn something and you know, have a real career and be able to stand on a decree as something that made me amazing. Uh, but outside of learning all the things and going through the educational system, I didn't have much belief that I could do anything. You know, I was never really, you know, um, encouraged and built up on that growing up and I didn't really find opportunities to do that myself growing up, you know, so I, I just, I didn't have the ambition of like, I can do so many things like, you know, a lot of Gen Z kids are today, which I think is absolutely freaking fantastic because it just shows that you, you feel good about yourself, you're not really plagued with so much self-doubt, which is, which is fantastic, right? Um, but I've always had this fear of just being like a tumbleweed blowing down the road with like no specific direction in mind and just kind of like going from here to there trying to figure it out. It's kind of sad <laugh>, but that's just like how it was for me and I'm grateful that I no longer feel that way. Like truly. And if you went through a transition in your life where you used to feel like that and now you no longer feel like that, that's so fantastic. I'm really glad that you are have transitioned away Not allowing self-doubt just to control your whole life. But having that mindset gave me so much doubt in myself and just thinking that, you know, I can't really do that much, um, you know, doubt that I would've never be like good enough to do anything, anything. Well, right, maybe like neutral, maybe like, like middle zoned, but not anything. Well, and even if I did end up fishing all the years of school I had planned on doing, it's like even though I was gonna go to school and I was gonna be, and I wanted to have like actually like get a doctorate and be like a doctor of psychology, like that was my whole goal and open a practice and help kids with their trauma and all that stuff and while also being a youth pastor because, you know, it was all about like helping kids to, you know, become the most that they can be and help them. Um, so tel has been a constant theme in my life for so long, and I'm sure that I'm not the only one suffering from this of course, which is why I am bringing it up today. It is something that I think all of us have gone through, maybe not as extensive as me or maybe even longer than I have been suffering from it. And that's totally fine. So that's why I wanted to tell you today, and I really had it in my heart to share that you have more to give than you think. Like we all do. We all do. And it can be tough to bully that you might be like, Sabrina, I don't know what you're talking about. You don't know me, you don't know all the things I've been through or failures or mistakes I've made and all of these things you could try to use to convince me that you don't have more to give, but you do. Every single one of us absolutely does. And I was recently sitting at my desk thinking about how amazing it is that truly like how amazing it is that people are connecting with the way that I, that me Sabrina am sharing about God and deepening my relationship with him by really getting into studying the Bible. And because I just started like posting videos on things that just like kinda like blew my mind or just finally like clicked so well, or when I went to the commentary and understood it better, it was like, oh my gosh, this is how this relates to this. And really being able to find the connection of how connect to all of these like mindset and mental health and emotional management, uh, issues that a lot of us struggle with and wanting to share those things with people. And so I was just really sitting in a moment of gratitude of like, oh my gosh, you know, it's so amazing that people are enjoying this and loving this. And I was kind of in like a prayer kind of chatting thing, you know, to myself and to God as I have been doing. When I said something like this, I don't, I didn't record it so I was trying to like recall it. So it was basically something like this. I'm surprised that people are relating to me so well, even though I'm still new here, really just reflecting on new in deep Bible study and such, but you're using me where I'm at right now, like right now in life and others may be at that same place and appreciate the way that I go about it because of that, you know? So basically I was coming to the conclusion that God is using me to do his work right where I'm at in life and it's a really big deal for me because I always, as I mentioned, thought that I would have to have all of these degrees and all of this accomplishment and experience to really make a difference in anyone's life. And I wanted to be a mental health professional. I wanted to help people, you know, become their best selves. That's like been my my even my tagline for so long now and doing the podcast and sharing advice and self-help stuff online and that's all I wanted to do. And so when I'm sitting in that moment of gratitude, just thinking like so grateful that people care about me, sharing me, studying the Bible and understanding it and wanting to share it with them and just developing prayers and it's like, who am I to be doing this? That's kind of like the thought process that I was in. And I'm sure that you've been there at some point, uh, where you're like, oh my gosh, I can't believe I'm able to help so many people understand this or learn how to do this or you know, even if it ends up you're a cautionary tale for something, but you're able to share that and help people along the way, which is absolutely fantastic. And you're just like, but who am I to be doing this thing? And so immediately having that thought, I went to look up some scriptures that aligned with that thinking, which I'm doing a lot lately. That's just like the thing I'm doing. And it's actually, I feel like sometimes it can really push my mind to the brink because it's like I get this wave of thought and then I'm like, okay, let's go look that up. And then while I'm looking something else up in the commentary, something else pops in my head and I have to go look that up and it's just like literally like down the rabbit hole of studying the Bible, which I think is fun and exciting for me. But here is the scripture that hit me the most when thinking about being beneficial despite our weakness that we have. It was from second Corinthians chapter 12 verse nine each time he said, my grace is all you need, my power works best in weakness. So now I am glad to boast about my weaknesses so that the power of Christ can work through me in that verse to understand the context. Paul is talking about how he had like a thorn in his side, which was, which represents like the weaknesses that he has in which we can think of the weaknesses and the mistakes and the failures and all the things that we think are like bad about us and not the greatest, that don't glorify God don't really are, we don't feel like are the best representation of our And he was talking about how he asked God three times to take those things away, but God's like, uh, no because you know, all you need is me to work through you. And that his power works best in our weakness because he is able to hold us up and give us strength. And it's such a good demonstration of everything that he is His glory, his power, his ability and working through us to become something amazing despite our setbacks, despite our lack of experience, despite anything and everything that we are. Because you know, we have more to give than we think. We have so much more to give than we think. And so the longer that we allow self-doubt to control us, to hold us back, to hold us, to keep us prisoner, the less we'll be able to do, the less we'll be able to serve the Lord or be a good role model for this or teach people that or lead people in this or whatever it is that you're doing in your life. And you know, there were many people in the Bible that struggled with feeling like they were enough to do what God was asking them to do. There's such great stories if you need a pick me up to be honest, uh, because like, you know, hotshot Moses led the, his rights out of Egypt. That was a big deal. And there were times where he was like unsure and God was speaking to him and telling him like, no dude you can do this Paul, who is our new role model for confidence. If you don't know what I'm talking about, there's a recent reel that I did where I was talking about how Paul is like the epitome of confidence in God that everything's gonna be fine. Um, cuz he felt inaccurate, uh, inaccurate, he felt inadequate to preach the gospel before realizing that God's power was made perfect in his weakness, which we already just spoke about. And then the last person that I recently actually learned more about in a sermon that I was watching on YouTube is Gideon. And Gideon needed signs like, uh, from the, from God to confirm that he was actually being called to lead the battle against the um, Midianites. And he was just like, are you sure? Like what are, you might have gotten it wrong and God's like nope, it's gonna be you. Right? And so he feels so inadequate, we feel so unprepared or like we don't have enough to give to what we want to do and the dreams that we have and the desires that are in our hearts and what God is telling us to do, but we are, we just have, this is like the self-doubt is just like a covering over our eyes and our minds that we can't see how amazing we are. And we're allowing that cover to continue. We're allowing that to be the limiting, the limiting things that are just holding us back. It's just, and I like pause because these limiting the beliefs that we have are just, it's just so sad. Even it's so sad that like we get so down on ourselves and it myself included, right? That we get so down on ourselves and we don't allow ourselves to take a step back and really realize all the amazing things that we've already done in our lives that we may not have recognized as amazing things but they are anything good any way that you helped someone, even if it was small, even if it was like, oh yeah, I'm just gonna buy someone's coffee, I'm gonna hold the door for them, gonna pick something up that they dropped. I'm gonna be really kind to them and no one else is kind. It's just like we do so many things, we don't even realize it. So today I wanna chat with you about how we have way more to give than we think we do. Uh, cuz we are capable of so much like absolutely so much time, experience, or even how we feel about ourselves. We have so much to give. We just need to realize it and believe it and then hold fast to that and go like, go and do the things. And you know, we can do amazing things if we only believed in ourselves and no longer allow the doubt to take over our minds. And to that note today, I'm gonna share with you five tips that you can use to push through feelings of in uh, inadequacy and self-doubt. Uh, but before we get to that, as always, I have to give you my disclaimer. So here is it really quickly as always, the tips and advice I'm about to give you is all based on my own knowledge and research and the experience of myself and the experiences of others that I am allowed to share with you. If you find that what I'm about to share does not align with what you think would be most beneficial for you in dispelling self-doubt and knowing that you can do more and you have more to give, I encourage you to seek a therapist or a counselor to have that one-on-one opportunity to figure out what would better align with you better understanding how to push past your self-doubt. But if you don't wanna do that, you can always go to our best friend Google and type in like self-doubt tips or filling inadequate and keywords like that. And that could maybe align better with finding all the articles and the videos and the podcasts and the social posts and other opportunities for you to better understand what you should do in the situation of wanting to overcome self-doubt. So let's jump in right into our tips. I have five of them for you for how we can push through, you know, this self-doubt that is holding us back from doing so much more than we can ever possibly believe. Okay? So the first one is find the source of your feelings. Discover the source of these feelings of inadequacy of less than not enough, having self-doubt that you can even do the things that you desire to do. Um, so what are your feelings based in, that's like a really good question to ask yourself. Maybe it's based in unrealistic expectations of yourself. So, or sometimes let's not like get in the practice of projecting things onto other people, but sometimes we can have unrealistic expectations from other people that they're like, oh, I expect you to do this, that and the other and be able to have all these things that can often come from maybe like a, a boss or a manager at work onto you. Maybe it's from like your parents, especially if you're like an adult and they have an expectation that you're gonna like, you know, the classic one of like you're gonna take over their business and blah blah blah blah blah and or do the same line of work or like whatever it is, right? So figure out if the unreal ex expectations are put on yourself from you because you feel like you need to measure up to other people or you need to accomplish these things because that's like the decision that you made long ago and you have to fulfill the things that you say you're gonna do. Or if you feel like it's from the influence of other to do these things. But maybe it's comparison, which I kind of touched on. Like if you're comparing yourself to other people and those are the expectations that you put on your life, that's a lot that can be so much and that could be a really big reason why you doubt your ability to do it. Because it seems like when you do compare yourself to oth what other people are doing in the same vein of where where you want to go, it doesn't feel like you can get there. It feels like it's just too much. You know, it feels like you would have to work more than anyone has ever worked, right? You kind of like overdramatize it in your mind. And so whenever we spend time comparing ourselves to, to another person, which I am very mastered in, I often compare myself to other people and it's a very bad habit. It's a very bad habit because I have the problem of always thinking that I often think that I am behind, behind everyone else. And that's not true. None of us are behind. We're in our perfect timeline that we need to be and we just need to recognize that and we need to respect that and just like leave it alone and move on to actually doing the things that we wanna do, trying to do the things, you know what I mean? And so Ian thinking that I'm behind, I'm comparing myself to other people and thinking, oh my gosh, I'll never amount to what they're doing when we really don't know. And it's not just on social media, like even in real life we don't really know the inner workings of people's personal lives. So we don't know what they're doing and what they're going through to get to where they are or where they have been. And we're continually going. So figure out if the feelings of self-doubt for you and comparing yourself to someone else and thinking you're less than because you're not them despite going through a similar path, doing similar things, being a similar age, whatever. Uh, is it past mistakes or failures? We often allow these things to hold us back when really we should allow these things to rise us up and give us more knowledge and experience to be able to push through struggles and other things that come at us in the future because we have this experience of going through those mistakes in failures and that should empower us not, you know, enslave us in our own like minds of thinking we can't do anything. Or maybe it's other people's opinions. That's definitely a big one for me too. I struggle with that. I have been slowly able to pull away from it because I always try to ask myself like, why does what they're saying matter? And does it change anything? Right? Does it actually change anything? So I feel like the worst case scenario is if someone says something bad about you and then they tell a bunch of people and it becomes a rumor that flies around and someone takes it as truth. And so now there's this like quote unquote like fake truth out there about you. Maybe that could hinder some opportunities. But I think that if you continue to demonstrate in your life and your character and your integrity, then people will realize that those rumors that flew around that people had no business talking about aren't true. It can be really frustrating because we wanna change how people think about us and how they perceive us, but we have no control over that. There's absolutely no way for us to do that. It's just not possible. It sucks, I know. But we just, we can't control how other people see us. So we need to let it go. Just be like, Hey, there's nothing I can do. I can like put out all the positive press and marketing about myself that I can, but people might just still be stuck in their bias or maybe they feel that way because they're envious or jealous of you. And so they want to have a negative like outlook on you because it makes them feel better and make them feel right in their jealousy, in their envy, right? And so it's giving them an excuse to not like you and to not treat you well and talk bad about you because it just feeds the feelings and the struggles that they have in their own mindset. You know what I mean? So when we are so caught up in other people's opinions and that is the thing that's feeding our self-doubt, do not allow us to go out and do amazing things. We really just need to ask ourselves is that where the feelings are coming from? Because once, you know, and it could be a multi, it could be like multiple places, doesn't have to be just one of the ones I named. It could be even one that I haven't named. But once you know where your feelings are based, you can combat those feelings with positive ones and ones that better reflect the truth, the truth of the matter. It's like yeah, they might have said that you're a terrible person right? You might have gone through really big mistakes and failures, maybe you went through some sort of like business failure or bankruptcy, but that doesn't mean that you are nothing now it just means that you've been granted the opportunity to reset and restart. You have so much knowledge behind you of what not to do or how to go different ways or how to seek help at a certain time where there were red flags that you just didn't notice. You know? Now you that the truth is, is that you have another opportunity. The truth is, is that you actually took action and took risks and put it all out there and it didn't work out. And that's okay because just because you've had mistakes and failures doesn't mean it's the end for you. So once you know where those feelings are based, then you can use positive ones and ones that reflect the truth to overpower those things and not let those things be the main thing that feeds your self-doubt. Number two is take action and risks. Take action and risks. So don't just take action. Don't just take those steps forward, take risks, do things that you wouldn't do. Do things that you could fail at. Do things that could bring about mistakes in your life. You know, really push yourself. Set a few small goals that will help you to take that action to really get things going. Cuz you may be like, oh my gosh, I will never be able to, you know, become the doctor of psychology or I will never be able to, you know, be able to create videos on the internet or have a podcast where I help millions of people or become a preschool teacher or do whatever the thing is that you wanna do, right? But if you are able to just take a few steps forward in those dreams and those goals, you can prove to yourself that you're just kind of like blowing it up proportion in your mind, which you know a lot of us are doing. Let's just be honest about that. So set a few small goals, make sure those goals are achievable and not unrealistic. Like high expectations and take it one step at a time to lessen self-doubt over time. That'll definitely help to like break, like chip that down, chip your self-doubt down and then do an activity outside of your comfort zone cuz that will help you to really take those risks and try new things and really demonstrate to yourself that you're able to do so many more things than you ever realize you have more to give. So try something you've been afraid to do. Like maybe it's like speak in front, ever grew up, maybe it's in your community or at work. Um, or change up your daily routine if you are very like hooked on a very specific routine, can I change it up bit? Eat a different breakfast, wake, bed a different time, you know? Um, do different things. Drive to a different coffee shop, you know, maybe cut out all of those things and do it all at home and then go to work, right? Change up your routine, try a new method of exercise. Maybe if like the only thing that you ever do is the peloton, maybe you wanna take a couple walks outside, maybe you wanna, you know, do some body weight exercises. Maybe you wanna start running, I don't know, kind of like shake it up a little bit. Take that risk of trying something new that you'll actually like something else. Maybe you're like, oh I've done that in the past and it didn't work out. The past was a different season of life, okay? Just because you've tried things in the past does not mean that they won't work again now or in the future. And just because you've done things in the past does not mean that they still will work in the present or in the future. We have to realize that we are going through and shifting through different seasons of life and different things will work and then different things won't. And we need to allow ourselves the ability to try things again or take a break from things because it's just not working like it used to. And that's perfectly fine. We need to allow ourselves to change and flow and have flexibility and be able to have a different perspective on how life can be cuz that will allow us to enjoy life to the most. And I think a lot of us just don't realize that because we think that we have to do things a certain way, the way things have things have worked. But over time if you continue to do that and you don't shift it to something different, you can burn out of that routine. You can burn out of those activities in the way that you live life and then, and then you are actually your mindset and everything like plummets and you're like, what happened? Everything was so great and it's just because like you just, you stayed in those things or you forced them. You forced them to work for longer than they should have, you know? So yeah, change up your daily routine, try a new method of exercise, challenge your perspectives and your beliefs. If you maybe only thought that you can only make pasta sauce this one way because that is the way that your Italian grandmother taught you and you're like no, there's absolutely no other way that they can be made. And then someone else is like, no, I make it this way. And you're like, oh my gosh, how could you? But maybe you wanna open your mind a bit and be like, oh you know what, sure you can make it this way. Sure it still tastes fine. I prefer the way that I do it, but good to know that there's another way to do it, right? That was a silly example but you know what I mean. So do an activity outside of your comfort zone. Try something new, push yourself, be flexible and then bring attention to your idea, in your opinion. I added this one in under take action and risk. Because often if we have self-doubt, we feel inadequate, we feel like we have nothing to give, which we have so much to give. We often don't think that the things that we say are important. And by taking the action and the risk of sharing those things with people, we are pushing ourselves out of our comfort zone. We are taking a risk of sharing and telling people what we think, what we believe, and we are standing on our ground that that's what we feel. And we might still have the open mindset and perspective that we could be wrong or that we could also see it from another way. But this is how we feel and that's important to note. It really is. So speak up for yourself and make what you have to say known to everyone even if they don't agree. Cuz that is a great way to push yourself and push back and chip away at that self-doubt cuz you're like, well you know, I did share they didn't agree, but I still feel good in sharing it and letting people know how I feel and what I think. And that's really important. Okay, number three, which is a really easy one, it kind of tack on to the last one. Number three is learn new skills. Learn new skills. How will this help with your self-doubt? How will this help with you feeling inadequate? Because when you learn new things, you get really excited about them and you wanna share them with people. And so you kind of lessen your self-doubt because you feel so good about this new thing that you learned that you wanna show everyone. And then you'll most likely get a lot of positive feedback of people being like, oh my gosh, that's so cool. Or maybe someone else that you know knows how to do that thing and they're like, oh my gosh, well let me show you how to level it up in this way. And then you get even more excited about it and you're not so focused on your self-doubt and all these other things that you wanna focus on. You're feeling so good about yourself of being able to do this new thing that that excitement and those positive feelings can expand to those other things that you are feeling doubt about and kind of like release them a little bit and you're like, well this is going so well, let's try this thing again. Let's try taking another step forward in this dream, in this goal, in this journey that I wanna be on. And you just feel so good about it. And then you kind of like, again, chipping down the self doubt. So when you learn new skills, take a class to better a skill that you already have or learn a new one. Like for me, I know how to use my camera like my DSLR camera, but I would really love to take a class to learn how to use it even better to use it like at a higher level. And then I feel like I'd actually be developing new to do more things, right? Or I could learn like a brand new skill which would be, I don't know, let's say I wanted to randomly learn how to draw. I actually have been looking into that just even like quick doodling just so I could like do it freehand and include it into like things that I create and that would be a brand new skill and like learning it and getting excited about it. Even if there were like setbacks, it'd be like frustrated cuz I'm not getting it quite as well as I'd like to still, you're like pu I'm pushing myself to learn a new skill. Chipping away at the self-doubt because I'm like, okay, well I'm pushing myself to try this new thing to figure this new thing out and I'm adding to my set of skills. I'm gonna feel really good about that. Also, when you are learning a new skill, try something you've never thought you would ever do or that has nothing to do with anything that you do now. So for me, like doing the camera and doing the doodling thing and and drawing, those have to do with the content that I create and other things in my life. But if I were to pick something that had nothing to do with my life, it would be like, okay, well why don't I learn all about scuba diving? I had, I, I barely can swim but let's just say I wanted to learn about it. Let's just say I wanted to like understand like how it works and all the, you know, certifications and everything that goes into it, right? And that has like nothing to do with anything, like anything in my life. Not even close. I don't even think there's a place for us to go scuba diving near like where we live. So like it would just be super outside the box, right? For me, for me. So you know, just really like learning new skills, really pushing yourself out of that comfort zone. The more that we push ourselves out of the comfort zone, the easier it'll be to chip away at that self-doubt because we're out there taking risks and doing things and we're not hiding behind these limiting beliefs that we're allowing to hold us back. And we're pushing ourselves forward and realizing like we have more to offer. Also, when you learn new skills you can discover that you're really good at something that you had never tried before and you would not have tried because you didn't think it would be like a thing that would spark you or really work out and then bam, you find something that you're like, oh my gosh, I'm really good at this. And then again, it increases your self confidence which will help to chip away at yourself down. Number four, lean on God. Lean on God. It's important that I include this because it is so helpful, it's so helpful and even for me more than I will ever know because it's just continuing to get better and better. And if it's not something that you've tried or experienced, I encourage you to even just like, you know, start with just talking to God and be like, Hey God, I don't know. Cuz if you're not a Christian you're probably gonna be like, I don't even know how to start with that. That seems weird. But I would encourage you to try it. Just be like, Hey God, I don't know anything about you but I would love to get to know you or figure out what it would even mean to be a Christian. And I'm talking to you out loud because people say that it's really good to pray and talk to you like a friend and develop that relationship. And so you could just really just be honest and vulnerable if you've never prayed before, if you've never talked to God, if you don't have that relationship, if you're not even first into what that would mean and just really begin it like that. And with the Bible I would say just find a Bible that's easy for you to read. The words definitely don't start with a King James or even the new King James. I would say go to like an N L T, which is like the new living translation. Even a God's word translation would be really great. And then if you have questions, just go online and look up, uh, like ask questions like what does it mean when he says this? What does it mean when the, what does this scripture mean? And really like understand it better if you wanna like start developing that relationship with God. But in general I think it's important and helpful to dispel our self-doubt by leaning into God. So pray and seek God's wisdom and guidance and strength to make it through moments of like feeling less and that high self-doubt that holds us back from so much. And also remember that God can use us despite our weaknesses. Our in our inexperience are we, we as we already spoke about before when talking about, you know, Moses and Gideon and Paul who didn't think that they were worthy of being able to do what God was calling them to do what they were and they did so much, right? And and the scripture that we read from Second Corinthians. And so just really reflect on that, how God can use us despite anything and everything. You know, our weaknesses are going to be the things that glorify God the most because his power and glory and a ability will be shown through us. Like despite our natural abilities, he will be able to just work through us, create amazing awesome things that we may not even like have thought, thought of doing or thought we could ever accomplish. And I'm sure a lot of people that we had talked about in the Bible like didn't even think that they could do it cuz they were already very like concerned when God's like, Hey, you're gonna do this. And they're like, are you sure you're talking to me? Are you sure you got the right person? Are you sure? Are you sure? Are you sure? You sure? And I've spent a lot of time thinking those same things. And so it's important for us to realize that through our weaknesses, he is strong and he will be there to offer and give us strength and work through us and just continue to be amazing. So lean on God and he will help to chip away your self-doubt as well by working through you and using you to do fantastic, really big things that you could never have realized that you could do or you told yourself you couldn't and bam, he's like, Nope. Yes you can. Yes you can't. Uh, number five, and the last one I have to share with you is have a balanced view of your strength and weaknesses. Have a balanced view of your strengths and weaknesses. So we focus way too much on our weaknesses. Everyone as like a culture, we're just always like, oh my gosh, let me tell you about how terrible I am at this, that, and the other. We are always trying to find ways to either feel worse about the weaknesses that we have, um, that we can't do or haven't done well rather than even trying to make those things better. So it's, you could be like, oh my gosh, I am so bad at writing emails, I am terrible. Let me show you the worst one. Let me show you what they said about how I'm really bad at that. But then you like have no plan, no desire to like get better at that, to figure out a way to better write an email so you're not offending people or whatever the case may be. This is another silly example, you know, I like silly examples here. And so you just wanna like focus on that and have that be like the way to create conversation with people by talking only about your weaknesses and really talking down about yourself essentially. But there needs to be a balance between reviewing what needs to be strengthened and then like what is already really strong and amazing for you to share with other people and use in a way to help others, you know. So no one is good at everything, okay? No one is good at everything except for Jesus. He's got it all, but no one is good at everything. So we need to be proud of the things that we are really good at and use those things to benefit others and, and really help other people and, and help ourself to succeed, right? But also consider how the things that we are weaken will demonstrate our ability to work hard, to persevere and to rely on God to work through us because we also need to realize that, you know, through with him, through us, we will do so much more than trying to do anything on our own. And it's just a good reminder of that. So, but that's it, that's all five of the tips that I wanted to share with you in regards to. How to dispel that self-doubt. How to know that you have more to give than you could ever even consider or think of. Uh, but thank you so much for listening to The Real Positive Girl podcast again with me, Sabrina. Uh, again, check the show notes below and take a little peek on signing up for the newsletter, going and checking out the YouTube channel and, uh, DMing me and getting together with me on socials, talk about your favorite ice cream or sorbet or our pizza or whatever. But, uh, thank you so much for everything and just being here and I absolutely appreciate it. And until next time, have a good one and I will see y'all next time. Bye friends.